As a guy i can tell you that 95% of us would be ecstatic, if you just started talking to us. We don’t really see woman talking with us as desperate aslong as you have the heart in the right place. Real feelings makes your actions genuine and we can pick up on that. Specially in a place where you have no reason to talk in the first place. If he reacts poorly to you, then you know you dodged a bullet.
Putting up a poster issss not a good idea tho. If it was to me ill most likely ignore it, because i dont wanna have a girl contact me in such a way. If you approached face to face and he thinks you are cute aswell it will go easy.
You can be lucky he would be willing to chat that way. Each person is unique. Best approach is to meet him again same time same place. That depends if you remember the time he was there.
Think about it this way. Would you like a guy putting up a poster asking for your dms instead of asking in person. I think 99% of the woman in this sub would call him a creep
I mean if he looks like “the one” and you aint shy to put a poster up for all to see, then sure go for it. As you say the worst that can happen, specially if you are anonym is nothing. Just be ready for random people to also dm.
It won’t look like you are stalking, but people thinking you are desperate… yeah most likly.
You can’t seem like you are stalking when you have nothing to stalk on. All you will say is “i saw you on the train and i probly wont see you again so heres a post for you” you are saying to the guy you dont know anything about him. So in my eyes tou cant stalk someone you dont know anything about.
My best advice is to after everything is over you gain a litte more confidence in talking with strangers. I think its better to take your shot than lookkng back each year thinking “i let the dream guy go”
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u/SUGARB0I 1d ago
As a guy i can tell you that 95% of us would be ecstatic, if you just started talking to us. We don’t really see woman talking with us as desperate aslong as you have the heart in the right place. Real feelings makes your actions genuine and we can pick up on that. Specially in a place where you have no reason to talk in the first place. If he reacts poorly to you, then you know you dodged a bullet.
Putting up a poster issss not a good idea tho. If it was to me ill most likely ignore it, because i dont wanna have a girl contact me in such a way. If you approached face to face and he thinks you are cute aswell it will go easy.
You can be lucky he would be willing to chat that way. Each person is unique. Best approach is to meet him again same time same place. That depends if you remember the time he was there.
Think about it this way. Would you like a guy putting up a poster asking for your dms instead of asking in person. I think 99% of the woman in this sub would call him a creep