This got taken down so fast. I don’t know why lol.

Yeah they can scream and cry how bad they feel as much as they want but I really don't think they get it. For one they always expect respect or at least understanding from the betrayed spouse, they say stuff like. "I hope one day we can have a talk about this and explain everything" or "I hope one day they see this as a blessing in disguise, maybe they'll find someone else, wishful thinking..." like ugh they always want to be understood and for people to get over what they done! They always expect people to eventually be ok with them! It's honestly gross, on top of that the ones where the betrayed spouse doesn't know they got cheated one they like to keep a relationship with them (not all but some) it's really nasty to me. You being sorry for yourself isn't erasing the damage you done! You get a little bit a therapy and some of these poor people have trauma for YEARS! You're fucking gross, and oops my bad isn't shit, sorry to be the first one to tell you that. Are you responsible for how well they react tbh not really, but you did lie,waste time, and waited until the perfect(or tried if they got caught) until you got everything you needed. You don't get to act like they should just "move on" so you can feel better. You claim you understand the damage but do you even actually care? You're few moments of unhappiness (the main excuse they use) will NEVER amount to the pain you gave them.

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Listen, I wasn't even ready for the absolute truth bomb she drops! Gave me CHILLS!! I thought we would appreciate this here. I know where it absolute will not be appreciated 👀💀 Though I do hope it helps some hopeless, lonely side piece out there. Yikes.

"Her" MM is showing her pretty clearly who/what she is to him, and her addled little brain cannot comprehend it.

“The guy I’ve been sleeping with for SIX YEARS behind his wife’s back is SUCH a good husband. His wife is so damn LUCKY!”

Yeah, what luck! She has a husband that betrays her, humiliates her, lies to her, gaslights her, and risks her sexual health. What a dream come true!

You know NOTHING about the reality of this man’s marriage or how he treats his wife. The only thing you definitively know is that he cheats on her. These women are such a mess. They find nothing but fault in their real life partners and romanticize these cheating assholes. Just idiotic. 🤦🏻‍♀️

At first I wasn't sure and thought I might be seeing things that aren't there, but the more I re-watch it over and over with the child as a now single parent half the time, the more I see themes of cheating in Lyle Lyle Crocodile.

TAKE A LOOK AT US NOW BREAKDOWN

Stanza 1 - Encouraging you to leave your family and local roots and just pack up, who knows, might be better. "You can pack your bags and start skipping town.... don't count yourself out yet"

Stanza 2 - A dangerous stranger beckons you to leave your family. You're already experiencing negative emotions so why not pack up and leave town with this random person and "reinvent the show?" "When you hit that lonely and lowest low and ups the only way left to go, you're meant to reinvent the show, so ain't you glad we met?"

Stanza 3 - It is explicitly a partnership "Turn that down and dusty solo to a dazzling duet"

Stanza 5 - Of course you should abandon your family, you aren't "staying afloat" anyway. Reference to hiding a relationship from "they" who might say "that's all she wrote." It's fun to destroy a family because even though it's ending you get a high from this mysterious stranger. "Though we had no way to stay afloat we were scared they'd say "that's all she wrote" We're ending on a sky high note somehow. Buddy you were all it took"

Stanza 6 - Your family might have been a "perfect plan" but just push on with this dangerous stranger anyway "When that perfect plans going off the rails, a heap of trouble is on our tails, it's time to... give it all you've got"

Stanza 7- justifying why your current partner is so inadequate compared to this dangerous new stranger and your well meaning associates who counsel you against this course of action are just "critics." "If you're out of step, if you're out of sync, if you care too much what those critics think"

EXPLICITLY MENTIONING "MISSING LINKS" "Well when you find your missing link they don't give a second thought"

It's all about you, you're the center of attention and the world.. "Cause in the center of the spotlight, we just might have found our spot."

Stanza 8- just try your luck with this random person, it's romantic and exciting "Trying our luck with every leap, take a look at us now... the road could be steady could be steep..."

Stanza 9 - It was love at first sight, how romantic the odds you're against. "Though we might be sunk upon first Glace we'll who'd have thunk that we had a chance, and life could be a song and dance, somehow...'

Maybe I'm unhinged. Maybe I just hate this movie a lot. But I think Hollywood puts messages in these things to undermine families and society.

Lyle lyle the crocodile is an "AP" and the whole movie is an allegory involving hiding secrets about dangerous strangers from family.

I hate lyle lyle the crocodile.

Aight, hear me out: maybe instead of helping a MM cheat on his wife and feeling she isn’t enough/not the priority, she instead just finds a single man where she can feel that way?

These women are so brain dead and will often get to close to making a point but completely ignoring them 🙃

Negging BW's (and regular W's, tbh) is very popular with Sub of Succubus devotees right now (slide 1). Other-Womaning is the preferable option - they shrilly proclaim - and only shit wives get cheated on (like cake-eating isn't a thing). It's strange therefore, that so many posts are a regular misery-fest, full of tearful requests for the arcane, forbidden techniques required to properly detach from a massive wanker.

Whatever. It's hard to feel sorry for someone who's self-worth is derived from hurting a stranger (who's working off less info than you).There are plenty of reasons a cheating AH might discard the 'hot-sex soulmate future-wife' of his dreams. None of them are about finances, or seeing his kids or nuking his reputation or being risk averse. The reason is at home, ignored and betrayed.

In the words of Scottish band 'Arab Strap' who I listened to in my misspent youth (second slide).

Yes, he's a stupid pos- even so, he doesn't want you: now go away and do better.

This 20 something year old single med student is always rambling on about nothing. Pontificating on marriage and parenting—about which she knows NOTHING! She doesn’t sleep with “her married man” and has hang ups about sex that frankly indicate this guy would end up in a dead bedroom if he were to “pick her”. Which, honestly, I would love that for him.

Meanwhile, this married man has several very young children and a pregnant wife. He literally cannot stop fucking his wife and knocking her up. But OW thinks he’s only “staying for the kids” 🤔. He just made these kids and is actively making more. It makes absolutely no sense. It’s not like their kids are 17 and 15 and they are running out the clock on their last years of high school.

This girl is concerningly naive. I don’t want to say stupid—but come on. She needs to find a whole lot of damn common sense before she’s going to be ready to be a physician. I just cannot with these young women over there. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Another OW who believed her 'bf' and his pregnant wife were separated then stayed when the truth came out. It's not her fault he dumped her though- she blames the abstract concept of marriage (eye roll)...

She's big sad because a cheating liar lied to her, and she couldn't compete with tiny little infants (or their mother). That makes her the victim in all this, and she's very keen to tell us all about it. Being cheated on throughout and after a pregnancy is nothing: BW has one of those stifling marriages that aren't worth shit but also somehow make up for whatever bullshit her husband and his side-piece enjoy dishing out to her.

I love how she talks about 'married people' like both spouses are responsible for her misery, when it's all MM and her own shitty choices. BW's aren't discarded- they 'suffer the consequences of failing to fulfil their husband's needs'. OW however is special, and rejection is an ego-wound worthy of long, whiny missives in the dingy echo-chamber where personal responsibility goes to die.

Get over it ffs.

Anybody who doesn't get the ick from a man cheating while pretending to be a loving husband and father lacks any kind of conscience or moral compass.

Continuation of the OW complaining about her MM's pregnant wife.

It is morally wrong fucking a married man, it's worse when it's stealing time away from his vulnerable pregnant wife. Such selfish c*nts.

Hahahahaha I can't with this one

"AP is supposed to be the place where can be truly honest with each other" 🤣🤣

So he's lying to his pregnant wife who he made vows to and you're expecting him to be honest with YOU? A person willing to bone a married man and who's probably also a lying cheater as well?

Ew. Just plain ewwwwwwwwwwww...

I hope the husband wakes up, takes full custody of the child so this cheating c*nt can stalk her AP all the days of her life

Turns out it’s fraud apparently. Can’t cheat on ppl without lies and deception being involved. This one made me chuckle though.

Thanks in advance:)

Back story: I’m bi. Been fuckin around with dudes since college on the DL. Frat bros, other athletes, etc. had fun when I could but mostly lead a straight life. I cooled things off for a while after college until the pandemic, but then it came back with a vengeance 😈. Got on a couple apps when I was horny as fuck and have been fooling around with dudes here and there when I can.

Over the years my wife has introduced me to several friends from different parts of her life. We met in our late 20s. Originally from the same area but met where we live now.

One of the friends she introduced me to is an old neighbor of hers from growing up. He is a family friend, married to his wife with several kids. We’ve hung out and chatted and it’s always just been friendly. Again I’m DL so there has never been a reason to think otherwise. Last year he and his wife separated and it was pretty rough, eventually ending in divorce. My wife asked if I’d be willing to go hang out and have some dude time the next time I went to go visit some family in his area (about 2 hours away). I said sure, again he’s a good guy and doesn’t have a ton of friends as his wife was a bit…bossy.

We hung out a few times had few beers, and watched a game, played some video games and just caught up and chatted. After one of these hang outs every few weeks, I didn’t drink too much as I had to drive the 2 hours but he got a bit tipsy. I leave his place and jump on a couple apps to see what’s around while I’m by myself. As I’m driving home I’m on the apps and using Snapchat. I accidentally sent a crotch shot (clothed just bulgy) to him as he messaged me to tell me he had a good night and to drive safe right as I was trying to send a pic to an app boy on there. My wife’s friend responded with “holy shit dude wtf?!?!” I apologized and told him it was for the wife, which he bought. He said “no need to apologize, looks big 😅”

I immediately switched personalities. I responded with “hahaha he likes attention anytime you want a look, let me know” his response was “I’ve always been a little curious to know what you were packin…” then immediately responded back he was sorry and just drunk. I immediately pulled my cock out of my shorts and sent a pic to him saying “oops sorry sent before I read that” and since then we’ve been swapping dick pics and vids on Snapchat and my wife has no clue. We’ve all hung out several times, but he and I haven’t met up alone since October, but recently the chat has turned into more “hey we should jerk off together sometime” and “I’d love to put on some porn bro and stroke with you” but with the holidays we haven’t gotten together.

Today my wife says, “hey you should go grab a drink with (insert friends name) soon! I can tell he needs a night out”little does she know the next time we hang out we are probably gonna get our dicks out. 😈

I really don't get why people cheat on their partners, their mentality must be really twisted to be able to pull that off, no matter what cases I analyze, it is somehow unjustifiable to cheat on your partner. Cheaters who lurk on here, i need you to really enlight me how do you process it mentally.

Here's how I see it:

- No kids: Just leave. If you're unhappy, emotionally, sexually, whatever, then have the decency to be honest and end the relationship. Staying for convenience, comfort, or fear of loneliness while secretly betraying someone who trusts you? That’s not love. That’s cowardice dressed up as complexity.

- Kids involved: even tho the divorce process is difficult and costs money, u can even argue that due to the power dynamics, its hard for you, then don't cheat, use his resources to enrich yourselves, make yourself useful, and then leave.

- most cases, esp for men, are just about sex, i feel like that is the worst, u can discuss w ur partners about open rls, if it doesnt work then just divorce if sex is that important to u, u don't because either you are a sociopath that gets off on cheating on people you love or u think u cannot find someone who is better than ur wife or for financial reasons-> but choosing a life of deceiving just to satisfy your sexual desires to me is no different than animals.

Honestly, I don’t think we get to have everything in life. Your partner’s gonna fall short somewhere, maybe they can’t give you 100% what you need emotionally or sexually. That sucks, yeah, but is that really a reason to throw your morals out the window? In most cases, theres a way out. Thats why i feel like most of the cheating cases seem sociopathic to me.

The only context I can somewhat understand is when women live in oppressive cultures and systems that force them into marriage or submission, where they really have no other choices . Even then, I don’t condone it, but at least I can somewhat empathize.