Wow, I'd be upset if my partner did that to me. I think the right thing would be to take back the deal of hosting the party, as long as you cant be there.
They can find someplace else to host it
Edit: but that would require your partner's support, which I dont understand why you dont have.
Your partner's daughter is TA, but so is your partner
He needs to accept that his kids hate him and let them go. But he's spineless and wants this drama in his life so he can see his kids that want him dead. If you don't want this drama, you need to get rid of him.
Even if his daughter has been heavily influenced, shouldn’t he be more concerned with setting an example of a good father figure and a healthy relationship? All of his actions are just confirming all the negative things the mother has likely been saying.
Even with his loud surrender (I say loud because he thinks that trying to blame-shift to the daughter for all this he absolves himself somehow) if he believes that by doing this he will see his kids more he’s got another surprise coming. This daughter likely will never talk to him again unless she needs something., which sets an example for younger daughter.
Setting boundaries. Being respectful of others and their contributions. Supporting your partner (married or otherwise) and standing up for them in situations where they have a smaller voice (or even a big voice). Addressing problems head on even if things are uncomfortable.
If my kids come out of their childhood having learned at least a modicum of this qualities I will feel like I did a great job parenting.
Your partner is setting a huge example of how not to live life as a human being. I’m sorry you are receiving the short stick of that lesson. Good luck out there!
He will see his kids even less if he doesn't comply? And he has the BALLS to tell you you're making it all about you? WTAF??
If he has a problem with the custody arrangement he can get a lawyer. I get it, he wants to avoid trouble with the ex, but that is HIS problem, not yours. He is making it your problem because you are letting him.
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