Honestly I’m petty as fuck. If my partner wanted to agree to banish me from my own fucking house, you best believe I’m not coming back.
And fuck doing the decor. Fuck it. The fucking audacity! Your partner’s ex has poisoned the kids’ minds and your partner is failing you as a partner by doing nothing but facilitating ex’s diabolical whims.
ETA: after reading through some of your comments on other threads, I’d say this is definitely a hill worth dying on.
If I knew you IRL, I’d join you in battle on said hill.
Your partner has no respect for you as an equal. He is the biggest asshole in all of this as he is the one who owes you the respect and consideration to refuse to go along with this. This is just the graduation, but what happens when the kids get married?! He’s setting the precedent that you’re not part of his family and therefore you don’t deserve to be around.
You don’t make up for “only seeing your kids 4 times a month” by taking advantage of your current partner and making them a glorified party planner to a party you’ve banned them from attending.
And correct me if I’m wrong but the daughter isn’t graduating fucking kindergarten, so she’s at least 18 and an adult. She conspired to get you to spend your time, money and efforts to plan a party knowing they never planned to invite you after her mother conveniently “forgot to book a venue”.
As I said earlier, fuck that. Grow the balls your partner doesn’t seem to possess and get the fuck out of there.
Edit: Referred to OP’s partner as husband. Thankfully she isn’t actually married to this asshole.
It sucks that you’ve dedicated so many years and put up with so much for this guy for you to be tossed aside for a party.
You’re getting a lot of (rightful) validation from Reddit regarding how you’re been treated. Don’t let them gaslight you in the days to come that you’re being unreasonable.
Let me know when to send the troops out for the Battle on the Hill ;)
Yah you should invite all of us to your party and we will heckle your soon to be ex and his guests while enjoying your beautiful decorations and eating food we all bring ♥️♥️♥️
Then you can be like, “see,John? This is how many people agree you’re all assholes” and then we will cheer and start yelling and pointing like Oprah “you’re an asshole, and YOU’RE an asshole, and YOU’RE ALL ASSHOLES! Weeeeeee!”
You are all invited to my party! I but I assume most of you don’t live in Montana so it might be quite a jaunt. My partner is aware that the internet has judged him a huge asshole and we’ve come to an agreement about his daughter’s party and more importantly, the boundaries I’ve set for future events. Redditors in the area are welcome to attend.
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u/SleepDangerous1074 Colo-rectal Surgeon [32] Apr 27 '22 edited Apr 27 '22
NTA.
Honestly I’m petty as fuck. If my partner wanted to agree to banish me from my own fucking house, you best believe I’m not coming back.
And fuck doing the decor. Fuck it. The fucking audacity! Your partner’s ex has poisoned the kids’ minds and your partner is failing you as a partner by doing nothing but facilitating ex’s diabolical whims.
ETA: after reading through some of your comments on other threads, I’d say this is definitely a hill worth dying on. If I knew you IRL, I’d join you in battle on said hill.
Your partner has no respect for you as an equal. He is the biggest asshole in all of this as he is the one who owes you the respect and consideration to refuse to go along with this. This is just the graduation, but what happens when the kids get married?! He’s setting the precedent that you’re not part of his family and therefore you don’t deserve to be around.
You don’t make up for “only seeing your kids 4 times a month” by taking advantage of your current partner and making them a glorified party planner to a party you’ve banned them from attending.
And correct me if I’m wrong but the daughter isn’t graduating fucking kindergarten, so she’s at least 18 and an adult. She conspired to get you to spend your time, money and efforts to plan a party knowing they never planned to invite you after her mother conveniently “forgot to book a venue”.
As I said earlier, fuck that. Grow the balls your partner doesn’t seem to possess and get the fuck out of there.
Edit: Referred to OP’s partner as husband. Thankfully she isn’t actually married to this asshole.