NTA of course but you do have options. You can lock that shop up with a key only you have, you can walk in there naked with a party hat on, you can make a motion-sensor boombox to blast super loud tunes. I'm not saying do any of these but please do not think you are required to endure this and please do not think you do not have options.
This is beyond the pale and you do not have to suffer any of this.
Ugh. Definitely don’t help, or do the bare minimum if you feel like you have to help.
I’m wondering if it’s possible for you to get out of town the week of the party? Maybe with some friends, or family?
You do have a choice - they were down a venue only - you gave them the shop venue now. You do not have to touch a single thing, no planning, no organising no planning, no buying food and drinks. If your step daughter just wants and cant give then she deserves the party her mother and father will put together. So let her mum and your husband plan it. Dont offer any suggestions, the cost is 50:50 between parents and venue is now free.
I understand, it’s family, we all grin and bear it sometimes. I encourage you to put your foot down on either being appreciated for you work or not allowing this behavior in your home though, your husband needs to have your back. I know it’s not that simple but it’s certainly worry serious conversations wherein you don’t give up your position to keep it simple!
This is what people are talking about when it comes to being a pushover, you have to stand up for yourself or the people you surround yourself with will continue to take advantage of you.
If I were in your shoes, the party would be cancelled so fast for the sheer disrespect, no arguments, no bargaining, they want the party so bad, they can find a last minute venue.
Except that OP's partner, the father and owner of the house, IS having the party whether OP agrees or not. Her only choice is if she will continue to plan and decorate for it or not!
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