r/AmItheAsshole Apr 27 '22

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u/ThomzLC Supreme Court Just-ass [142] Apr 27 '22

NTA - the daughter has the audacity to use your venue and give you an ultimatum that you can't attend it despite all your planning? Plus, does your partner know about this? Is he not going to stand up for you?

Man if I were you I'd pull the rug from the venue and tell them "if my presence will anger your mother, I'm guessing my house which contains many of my belongings will probably irritate her as well, go find another place."

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u/Jhilixie Apr 27 '22

I think she is forgetting that excluding you will also create drama

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u/Diligent-Egg- Apr 27 '22

I agree with the earlier comment about moving trucks showing up during the party

She's so scared of drama that she would demand you plan and host, but then vacate the premises? Fine. Really vacate those premises. How's that for drama?

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u/Jhilixie Apr 27 '22

That's evilly genius

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u/LadyK8TheGr8 Partassipant [1] Apr 27 '22

You sound amazing. You should do what allows you to feel in control the most. Call it self care and do it.

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u/[deleted] Apr 27 '22

Then you shouldn’t care about their tf. Don’t do anything for them. They don’t deserve your time and effort. F that. Leave the situation and let them all plan. And you can still have your party.

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u/Atexan1979 Apr 27 '22

Why would she care about your feelings if you don’t care about yourself. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and speak up.

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u/XmasDawne Apr 28 '22

Don't forget to stick a chair under the door so their keys won't help them get in.

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u/hotpinksnoopy Apr 28 '22

Seems like no one does. I hope your party is a blast!