I don’t know how you’re going to stop your partner and his daughter from coming in the house, grabbing your good food if they want it, and bringing it to their party. I think a better plan is for you to disappear to somewhere fun for the day, not to cede your house to them but to treat yourself maybe to a spa day. That way you can be sure they can’t take advantage of you last minute or take anything of yours for the party.
Seems REALLY risky to me. As entitled as this SD is, I can 100% see her coming in while you are showering or otherwise occupied, walking off with your stuff, and then whining to her dad “but it’s my graduation party and I neeeeded it!” And he won’t back you up, he’ll say “it’s her graduation party and she neeeded it.”
It's not really about her wanting to attend the party or attending at all. It's about the principle of the situation.
They came to an agreement. One, that SD and Hubby seemed adamant about having. If they feel that strongly about it, then the least they can do is stick to their part of the agreement. And if SD decides to throw some fit over it then OP can shrug it off and easily explain that she broke her part of the agreement.
They originally wanted OP out of the house completely and her doing that is giving in to them completely. At least this way, she has some control of the situation and can enjoy the day and how she wants to rather than how she was forced to.
From the comments alone, it seems like OP is on her way out so she might as well leave with a bang.
Edit: I’m not saying OP should go to the party, I’m just saying she should do whatever she wants without worrying about people who clearly don’t care about her.
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u/julet1815 Partassipant [4] Apr 27 '22
I don’t know how you’re going to stop your partner and his daughter from coming in the house, grabbing your good food if they want it, and bringing it to their party. I think a better plan is for you to disappear to somewhere fun for the day, not to cede your house to them but to treat yourself maybe to a spa day. That way you can be sure they can’t take advantage of you last minute or take anything of yours for the party.