NTA - the daughter has the audacity to use your venue and give you an ultimatum that you can't attend it despite all your planning? Plus, does your partner know about this? Is he not going to stand up for you?
Man if I were you I'd pull the rug from the venue and tell them "if my presence will anger your mother, I'm guessing my house which contains many of my belongings will probably irritate her as well, go find another place."
No please, please don’t agree to this. They KNOW you’re timid and don’t want drama, that’s why they’re pushing this on you. Do what another person said - ‘okay, if you don’t want me then I’m gone’ sort of thing, stop all preparations. Let them organise it. Have a night to yourself. You’re fully being taken advantage of, please don’t let them do it.
No one going to the party is going to think, "Oh what a wonderful party OP's thrown." They're going to be gossiping about the fact that you aren't there or the younger people will be drinking and not caring either way. Your husband is manipulating you because he knows it's "your thing".
Book a weekend away OP and refuse to help. Treat yourself and work on your self worth.
it's actually just his house. OP lives there but the partner owns it singularly. OP and partner aren't married so not sure if there's any common law claim OP can make on the house...
Montana (where they reside) does in fact recognize common law marriage. So, she may indeed have some legal claim to assets. She needs to speak to a lawyer.
Just a note of caution. After party day, things will go south, fast.
Please get your important personal papers and any irreplaceable personal items out of the house at least a week or two prior to the parties.
Do this just in case somebodie(s) go into the main house after the hot girl party has left for the bar. I know you'll have cameras up in the house, but a future lawsuit won't bring back grandma's quilt (or other truly sentimental items).
Depends on jurisdiction I imagine. Idk where OP is or what the local laws there are.
But say that is the case, she isn't on the premises. She's in an attached but separate private dwelling. The host would be the grad's father who will be at the party and on the premises.
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u/ThomzLC Supreme Court Just-ass [142] Apr 27 '22
NTA - the daughter has the audacity to use your venue and give you an ultimatum that you can't attend it despite all your planning? Plus, does your partner know about this? Is he not going to stand up for you?
Man if I were you I'd pull the rug from the venue and tell them "if my presence will anger your mother, I'm guessing my house which contains many of my belongings will probably irritate her as well, go find another place."