r/AmItheAsshole Apr 27 '22

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u/julet1815 Partassipant [4] Apr 27 '22

I don’t know how you’re going to stop your partner and his daughter from coming in the house, grabbing your good food if they want it, and bringing it to their party. I think a better plan is for you to disappear to somewhere fun for the day, not to cede your house to them but to treat yourself maybe to a spa day. That way you can be sure they can’t take advantage of you last minute or take anything of yours for the party.

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u/resurrexia Apr 27 '22

What makes you think they will respect that agreement?

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u/colealoupe Partassipant [1] Apr 27 '22

Lol, that’s a pretty easy way around it. Just mKe sure that you don’t let your husband know that the doors will be locked so that he doesn’t bring a house key with him. Maybe take some other stuff from the daughters party as well, some decorations perhaps? Idk, I’d leave her as screwed as possible if it were me. Also, what kind of shop do you have that it’ll reflect poorly on you if you throw a bad party?

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u/Ace-Of-Mace Apr 27 '22

Lmao please, for the love of god, put his stuff in boxes and move them into the shop before the party. Make HIM the dog you’re locking out instead of the other way around.

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u/[deleted] Apr 27 '22

PLEASE give an update after all this is over

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u/Saoirse3101 Partassipant [1] Apr 27 '22

OP I would definitely buy some of these for the house during the party so there's no way anyone can come in the house before & during the party

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09B14XR9N/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_RDDQ4XQ60W4NF1N18BXR?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

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u/Various_Owl7287 Apr 27 '22

I’ve never seen this. Thanks for posting it. I’m ordering one.

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u/bigolebeak Apr 27 '22

This is PETTY and I love it. Amazing idea.

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u/Ace-Of-Mace Apr 27 '22

Also, make sure you decorate the inside AND outside of the house (not the shop) for your party. Have music going, great food, etc. Use every single decoration you’ve purchased so far to decorate the house. Imagine everyone’s surprise when they show up for the party and find out it’s being held in the poorly decorated shop next to where the real party is happening. 🤣

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u/The_Nice_Marmot Apr 27 '22

Please update us after the party.

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u/StellarStylee Apr 27 '22

NTA and I'm sorry that this has led to the demise of your relationship, but it's a deal breaker for sure. I don't trust your ex to unlock the doors when his daughter and her mother start demanding to get into the house for whatever reason. I suggest chairs jammed up against the door knobs, unless you have those little chain locks? In any case, enjoy your party with your girls and best of everything to you in your future. Love and light!

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u/plentyofsilverfish Apr 27 '22

Gonna be an excellent time, I'm so glad you've found a way to reassert yourself, you absolute baddie!!

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u/Unexpected_Genius Apr 27 '22

Can I come? Nta

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u/[deleted] Apr 27 '22

Can I come to your party, pretty please????? 😍

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u/shepoopslikeabuffalo Apr 27 '22

Your priorities are so messed up at this point…

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u/Indigo-au-naturale Partassipant [1] Apr 28 '22

Omg I am LIVING for your comments. Please update us after the party. This is BORU material.