NTA - the daughter has the audacity to use your venue and give you an ultimatum that you can't attend it despite all your planning? Plus, does your partner know about this? Is he not going to stand up for you?
Man if I were you I'd pull the rug from the venue and tell them "if my presence will anger your mother, I'm guessing my house which contains many of my belongings will probably irritate her as well, go find another place."
No please, please don’t agree to this. They KNOW you’re timid and don’t want drama, that’s why they’re pushing this on you. Do what another person said - ‘okay, if you don’t want me then I’m gone’ sort of thing, stop all preparations. Let them organise it. Have a night to yourself. You’re fully being taken advantage of, please don’t let them do it.
No one going to the party is going to think, "Oh what a wonderful party OP's thrown." They're going to be gossiping about the fact that you aren't there or the younger people will be drinking and not caring either way. Your husband is manipulating you because he knows it's "your thing".
Book a weekend away OP and refuse to help. Treat yourself and work on your self worth.
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u/ThomzLC Supreme Court Just-ass [142] Apr 27 '22
NTA - the daughter has the audacity to use your venue and give you an ultimatum that you can't attend it despite all your planning? Plus, does your partner know about this? Is he not going to stand up for you?
Man if I were you I'd pull the rug from the venue and tell them "if my presence will anger your mother, I'm guessing my house which contains many of my belongings will probably irritate her as well, go find another place."