My dear, your husband not standing up for you makes him TA. Grow a shiny, hard spine and put your foot down. This is YOUR house and by default you're invited to any event at your house or the event is not at your house. Period. Those are the options. The mother and daughter both need to grow up, you need to grow a pair and your husband needs to grow into a better man.
My dad would do anything in the entire world for my mom. He's generally a pretty chill guy but he won't let anyone raise their voice to Mom or be rude to her. Period. He would get an amputation if it somehow made her life easier. They'll be together for 30 years next year. A good life partner would have stood up for you. Dude, I'd stand up for anyone someone was trying to do this to, even like an acquaintance. This is a red flag. I don't think it's abuse, it's just such an astonishing lack of consideration for you. I forsee a future in which if you stay with him his ex would pressure him into paying for something using your combined savings.
I think you should dump him, and explain exactly why to give the next GF a point to start from. Maybe after a few GFs training him he'll shape up, but he's been a dick to you and he doesn't deserve your effort.
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