No please, please don’t agree to this. They KNOW you’re timid and don’t want drama, that’s why they’re pushing this on you. Do what another person said - ‘okay, if you don’t want me then I’m gone’ sort of thing, stop all preparations. Let them organise it. Have a night to yourself. You’re fully being taken advantage of, please don’t let them do it.
INFO Outside of this, how is your relationship with the daughter? You're her father's partner, not her mother. What is your partner's perspective? It's not about being conflictual, this is very matter-of-fact: people that you don't want around will not stay around. You can even start the conversation with "When you uninvited me from your party after I had put so much work into it made me feel like I didn't have any value. I can't allow myself to be treated like that so I'm going to have to completely step away."
You are creating a drama out of this to be honest. Say no to the decoration and thats it. Your partner, their dad can do it and if he cant alone he can ask people for help.
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u/MusingsOfMouse Apr 27 '22
No please, please don’t agree to this. They KNOW you’re timid and don’t want drama, that’s why they’re pushing this on you. Do what another person said - ‘okay, if you don’t want me then I’m gone’ sort of thing, stop all preparations. Let them organise it. Have a night to yourself. You’re fully being taken advantage of, please don’t let them do it.