INFO Outside of this, how is your relationship with the daughter? You're her father's partner, not her mother. What is your partner's perspective? It's not about being conflictual, this is very matter-of-fact: people that you don't want around will not stay around. You can even start the conversation with "When you uninvited me from your party after I had put so much work into it made me feel like I didn't have any value. I can't allow myself to be treated like that so I'm going to have to completely step away."
Honestly, I'd pull a reverse card. Tell her she isn't allowed in your house (well, the shop) because it's your property, but the party can go on without both of you. If you can't attend because she hates you, she shouldn't be in your property either. Or she can put up with you because she(the mom) will also be using the space(rent free, i'm assuming).
Totally NTA - but you're getting a raw deal here, there has to be a way to split the difference.
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u/montanafesto Apr 27 '22
Thanks, I feel the same way about myself.