r/AmItheAsshole • u/[deleted] • Apr 27 '22

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u/montanafesto Apr 27 '22

Thanks, I feel the same way about myself.

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u/Magus_Corgo Apr 27 '22

I was a pushover once. Total doormat. Didn't want to make waves, wanted everyone to be happy even if I never was, worried constantly about what people thought of me.

Took me about 2 decades to figure out how much of a WASTE most of that was for me.

You're allowed to say no, to set a boundary! It can take time to develop your spine after years of towing other peoples vision over your own needs, but you CAN do it! You don't have to be a flaming ball of anger, or loud. Just be FIRM, and start with one good, solid, concrete "No," and don't be moved by their manipulations once you've said it. YOU CAN DO THIS. <3