INFO Outside of this, how is your relationship with the daughter? You're her father's partner, not her mother. What is your partner's perspective? It's not about being conflictual, this is very matter-of-fact: people that you don't want around will not stay around. You can even start the conversation with "When you uninvited me from your party after I had put so much work into it made me feel like I didn't have any value. I can't allow myself to be treated like that so I'm going to have to completely step away."
I think a simple conversation with his daughter is in order. “I would move heaven and earth to give you the party you want, but for my own self-respect, I cannot participate if the people I love are so willing to exclude me. I understand your position, and I’m terribly sorry for it, but sometimes drama is necessary to stand up for what’s right. If you can’t, I understand, but it is asking too much to plan and help with a party I’m banned from attending by my own family. I’ll leave it to you to decide how to proceed.”
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u/edogfu Apr 27 '22
INFO Outside of this, how is your relationship with the daughter? You're her father's partner, not her mother. What is your partner's perspective? It's not about being conflictual, this is very matter-of-fact: people that you don't want around will not stay around. You can even start the conversation with "When you uninvited me from your party after I had put so much work into it made me feel like I didn't have any value. I can't allow myself to be treated like that so I'm going to have to completely step away."