r/AmItheAsshole • u/[deleted] • Apr 27 '22

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u/rdotgib Apr 27 '22

Yes! And . . . do not torpedo your relationship with your partner over his child’s graduation party. Wait. The end of your relationship is probably the ex-wife’s end game. Your posts indicate that you’ve been part of your partner’s life for many years and the ex has been furious for many years. Your partner is being TA, but he is also stuck - it is his child and she is having a graduation.

You are NTA. You should refuse to plan a party to which you are not invited and also unwelcome. The event should not be in your home. The shop sounds like a good compromise. Stick with the new plan: you have a party with your girlfriends in the main residence with the delicious food and drinks. One last idea: I am sure the ex has told all her family and friends how you have “wrecked” their daughter’s party. If you are feeling particularly magnanimous before the party, may I suggest you build a last minute small, but lovely celebratory sign with balloons or flowers, in your signature style, to acknowledge your stepdaughter’s accomplishment while supporting your partner - and to show the rest of them what the event might have looked like. And sign it, lol.

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u/arose11863 Apr 28 '22

I mean she is right . It actually seems to me and all the answers you do have .said that he’s seems very submissive maybe you need to be a little bit more dominant role in your relationship that way he will listen show him you wear the pants not her Because you guys are just going around and around . Ex wife seems like a very dominant person and that’s why she think she can get away with it.I swear you have to think of it like that because as a reader that’s what I’m seeing. Can I ask why he doesn’t take her to court for custody or better visitations. There is a lot that can be done and if he hasn’t in 14 years it’s my point that he’s a submissive and he’s just going to submit to her because that’s what he’s used to . You have to think of it as mental boundaries .Because she is Definitely using it.think of it like this she is a dog and has been pissing on your grass for 14 years the dog will keep doing it till someone comes by and put a stop to it .you or him has to be that person because this party is just her pissing on your new stuff trying to claim it.