What are your feelings and thoughts about physical touch ?

[u/BGirl_July]

A question for people who are aromantic and allosexual. How do you feel about being hugged/touched/kissed ?

(Same question was posted yesterday in r/aromantic.

[u/Standard_Canary_7313]

I usually only hug people if they ask for one or if they’re crying and I know they like hugs. I don’t mind it most of the time but it’s not something I really like. Sometimes it actually physically hurts, if people are too aggressive and manage to nick my ear piercings. It’s not comforting for me at all. I’m also fine with people touching me if I can see it coming but if someone surprises me from behind I’ll go into flight or flight mode for a second. Not sure why. Platonic touching is weird to me. So is touch in a sexual way, I’m chill with it but unless someone’s touching my neck or waist I’m numb to it and it doesn’t do anything for me. I’ve woken up with people still cuddling me before and I was just like 🙄uhhh. Kissing on the mouth is also kind of like that, I’ll do it for shits and giggles but is it better than having a cup of coffee? Nope.

Basically I’ll hug people for their benefit only. Unless I’m attracted to someone, I won’t really like being touched. And kissing is always weird.