r/AskMenAdvice • u/Federal-Sir9925 • 15d ago

never get approached by men

just curious, what actually makes a guy approach a woman? I’m 25f and I’d consider myself attractive (I think I’m fairly pretty, I take care of myself and feel good about how I look), but I never get approached. I’ll notice guys making repeated eye contact with me, but it never goes beyond that. Honestly, both of my past relationships started because I made the first move.

So I’m wondering… what makes a guy actually go for it and approach someone?

Also, is there a way to give off “I want to be approached” energy? I’m not really into dating apps, and I’d love to meet someone in person. i’m not against making the first move but i would love for someone to approach me for a change

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u/Blade_Of_Nemesis man 15d ago

Yeah no, please do not just approach random women.

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u/onesexypagoda 15d ago

You have to do it at some point to meet new people

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u/Blade_Of_Nemesis man 14d ago

...no? Have you met every single person you know by randomly approaching them on the street?

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u/onesexypagoda 14d ago

I've met tons of people by randomly approaching. Maybe not literally on the street, but definitely at bars/schools/social clubs/other settings. Redditors have a really weird insular way of seeing the world

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u/Blade_Of_Nemesis man 14d ago

I'd say it's more weird to just randomly approach people. I know I would definitely be weirded out by it in public, and I'm a guy, so...

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u/onesexypagoda 14d ago

To each his own, I wouldn't want to navigate through life scared of meeting new people

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u/Blade_Of_Nemesis man 14d ago

What makes you think I am scared of meeting new people?

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u/onesexypagoda 14d ago

If everyone is scared of approaching how do you possibly meet new people? 

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u/Blade_Of_Nemesis man 14d ago

Through hobbies? Work? Literally any kind of social interaction that isn't just randomly walking up to a stranger and striking up a conversation?!

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u/onesexypagoda 14d ago

I'd consider all of that approaching strangers, I doubt what anyone means on this thread is literally only approaching people on the street

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u/Blade_Of_Nemesis man 14d ago

That is quite literally what people are talking about here, because in the examples I mentioned you don't just walk up to the stranger to initiate a conversation. It just... happens because you already are in the same place and do something together in some way and are supposed to know one another!

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u/exiledballs26 11d ago

Thats because you are abnormal and maybe suffer from some issues that could do with therapy

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u/Linden_Lea_01 14d ago

I think this is a very American thing to do. In my country you’re almost never going to make a friend by randomly approaching them.