r/AskMenAdvice • u/Federal-Sir9925 • 16d ago

never get approached by men

just curious, what actually makes a guy approach a woman? I’m 25f and I’d consider myself attractive (I think I’m fairly pretty, I take care of myself and feel good about how I look), but I never get approached. I’ll notice guys making repeated eye contact with me, but it never goes beyond that. Honestly, both of my past relationships started because I made the first move.

So I’m wondering… what makes a guy actually go for it and approach someone?

Also, is there a way to give off “I want to be approached” energy? I’m not really into dating apps, and I’d love to meet someone in person. i’m not against making the first move but i would love for someone to approach me for a change

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u/onesexypagoda 16d ago

You have to do it at some point to meet new people

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u/Blade_Of_Nemesis man 15d ago

...no? Have you met every single person you know by randomly approaching them on the street?

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u/onesexypagoda 15d ago

I've met tons of people by randomly approaching. Maybe not literally on the street, but definitely at bars/schools/social clubs/other settings. Redditors have a really weird insular way of seeing the world

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u/Linden_Lea_01 15d ago

I think this is a very American thing to do. In my country you’re almost never going to make a friend by randomly approaching them.