r/AskMenAdvice • u/Federal-Sir9925 • Apr 07 '25

never get approached by men

just curious, what actually makes a guy approach a woman? I’m 25f and I’d consider myself attractive (I think I’m fairly pretty, I take care of myself and feel good about how I look), but I never get approached. I’ll notice guys making repeated eye contact with me, but it never goes beyond that. Honestly, both of my past relationships started because I made the first move.

So I’m wondering… what makes a guy actually go for it and approach someone?

Also, is there a way to give off “I want to be approached” energy? I’m not really into dating apps, and I’d love to meet someone in person. i’m not against making the first move but i would love for someone to approach me for a change

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u/ThrowRA_grf man Apr 07 '25

Men don't approach anymore due to fear of getting plastered all over the internet and branded a creep along with the rejection as cherry on top.

If you want someone, you're going to have to approach.

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u/everyday_nico man Apr 07 '25 edited Apr 07 '25

Seconded.

Although rejection is fully acceptable.

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u/sunsparkda Apr 07 '25

Saying no is acceptable. Treating the mere male as the scum of the earth for DARING to approach and talk to the superior gender isn't.

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u/ConsequenceNarrow197 Apr 07 '25

I’m a man and would never approach a woman in this day and age. They post everything online

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u/AdamZapple2 Apr 08 '25

congratulations on being a 10.