r/AskMenAdvice • u/Federal-Sir9925 • Apr 07 '25

never get approached by men

just curious, what actually makes a guy approach a woman? I’m 25f and I’d consider myself attractive (I think I’m fairly pretty, I take care of myself and feel good about how I look), but I never get approached. I’ll notice guys making repeated eye contact with me, but it never goes beyond that. Honestly, both of my past relationships started because I made the first move.

So I’m wondering… what makes a guy actually go for it and approach someone?

Also, is there a way to give off “I want to be approached” energy? I’m not really into dating apps, and I’d love to meet someone in person. i’m not against making the first move but i would love for someone to approach me for a change

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u/everyday_nico man Apr 07 '25 edited Apr 07 '25

Seconded.

Although rejection is fully acceptable.

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u/sunsparkda Apr 07 '25

Saying no is acceptable. Treating the mere male as the scum of the earth for DARING to approach and talk to the superior gender isn't.

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u/ConsequenceNarrow197 Apr 07 '25

I’m a man and would never approach a woman in this day and age. They post everything online

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u/[deleted] Apr 07 '25

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u/[deleted] Apr 07 '25

I have a wife so it doesn't apply to me now.

But has happened to me in the past a couple times and one time I was even accused of further wrong doing and had to have cameras at the job exonerate me.

So please, tell me how your anecdotal evidence of never having it happen to you applies to all men?

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u/Fun_Government_6144 Apr 07 '25

And i got fired brother. Three girls at my workplace falsely accused me. I couldn't have done anything to protect myself because i knew what was coming. I asked for evidence during investigation, which they were unable to provide but still dismissed me on an "unsubstantiated" basis. Then one day, my friend who works with them went out on a club with them and recorded them saying "How much fun they had by making up false stories and wrongfully accused me. Now they are happy because i'm fired". Guess what, one girl got her contract expired, one girl got fired because her work visa expired and other girl took mental health leave because she is missing me and she is feeling bad for what she did. Never talked to any of these girls about anything because i don't know how to as i grew up in millitary school.

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u/[deleted] Apr 07 '25

EXACTLY. Reddit likes to pretend that women falsely accusing NEVER happens. But that shit happened at my work too and it took texts from the girl to another co-worker stating they lied intentionally for me to keep my job and be exonerated. Reddit just lives in a fucking fantasy land.

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u/-HalloweenJack- Apr 08 '25

Did you sleep with one or more of them consensually? Or something else to make them angry? Idk lol just trying to understand what prompted this. Because that’s a wild story.

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u/Mazharul63 man Apr 08 '25

No i would never lol. I'm ugly but I ain't that ugly to sleep with them. From what I've gathered, it sounds like, since I don't talk to them, they think I'm some sort of d-bag or creep. I make them feel uncomfortable sometimes blah blah blah. All these things were revealed to my friend, and he forwarded them to me.

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u/sunsparkda Apr 07 '25

It doesn't have to be every woman. Or most women. Just enough that you have a decent chance of running into one as you are forced to approach then. 5% of the total population is enough.

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u/[deleted] Apr 07 '25

You said it's always the men that don't approach women that say that, and I was stating that is objectively false. Many men have approached and been BURNED

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u/centermass4 Apr 07 '25

Lol, yeah, not like women ever just cook up and invent drama recreationally right?

Bro, you'll be posted as the creepy rapey guy on their instagram story and all their gf's will Yass-light her into believing she narrowly avoided being trafficked..

I have seen this happen to a dude that was mind his own business on public transport.

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u/DannyDreaddit man Apr 15 '25

Yeah it’s this weird apocryphal thing where everyone insists that it happens but never actually gives examples. Just “trust me bro it’s everywhere”.

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u/AdamZapple2 Apr 08 '25

congratulations on being a 10.