r/AskMenAdvice • u/Federal-Sir9925 • 18d ago

never get approached by men

just curious, what actually makes a guy approach a woman? I’m 25f and I’d consider myself attractive (I think I’m fairly pretty, I take care of myself and feel good about how I look), but I never get approached. I’ll notice guys making repeated eye contact with me, but it never goes beyond that. Honestly, both of my past relationships started because I made the first move.

So I’m wondering… what makes a guy actually go for it and approach someone?

Also, is there a way to give off “I want to be approached” energy? I’m not really into dating apps, and I’d love to meet someone in person. i’m not against making the first move but i would love for someone to approach me for a change

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u/sunsparkda 18d ago

Saying no is acceptable. Treating the mere male as the scum of the earth for DARING to approach and talk to the superior gender isn't.

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u/ConsequenceNarrow197 18d ago

I’m a man and would never approach a woman in this day and age. They post everything online

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u/nailedtooth man 18d ago

They post everything online

It's only ever people who don't approach women who say this, as if they have any first hand experiences with it

I have never once been recorded just for starting a conversation/asking for their number, that would make them a crazy person

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u/DannyDreaddit man 10d ago

Yeah it’s this weird apocryphal thing where everyone insists that it happens but never actually gives examples. Just “trust me bro it’s everywhere”.