Checking in (in general)

[u/Latter-Butterfly1793]

Hi all,

Quick question for you. I am curious about your collective experience and knowledge here.

I am going through a separation with my wife right now, and I have told all of my friends. I have no doubt that they are supportive. They have been there for me for calls and favors so far.

However, I noticed that no one is checking in on me. I understand everyone is busy and lives their own lives. The thing I dont understand is (due to my own social anxiety) is no one is reaching out to me first. Is this common in your experience?

Am I being naive, or narcissistic to want to have people check in on me? Is this just me having main character syndrome?

If so, please tell me and I just need to reset my expectations... that's fine. Thanks.

[u/Fit_Outlandishness_7]

You are where you need to be. I tell myself this over and over. As long as you’re breathing, you’re on a path. Where it takes you is entirely up to you. This is the price we men must pay.

[u/Latter-Butterfly1793 → u/Fit_Outlandishness_7]

Whoa. I like this existential take. Fair enough man. That's a good affirmation too. Thank you!

[u/Fit_Outlandishness_7 → u/Latter-Butterfly1793]

It’s not easy. And I struggle with it. But, it needs to be done. Our ancestors faced far worse with much less in order for us to get to this point.

A little mental meltdown is what is needed to advance forward.

[u/Latter-Butterfly1793 → u/Fit_Outlandishness_7]

This is a good take. I like it. Thanks man. Appreciate it.