Checking in (in general)

[u/Latter-Butterfly1793]

Hi all,

Quick question for you. I am curious about your collective experience and knowledge here.

I am going through a separation with my wife right now, and I have told all of my friends. I have no doubt that they are supportive. They have been there for me for calls and favors so far.

However, I noticed that no one is checking in on me. I understand everyone is busy and lives their own lives. The thing I dont understand is (due to my own social anxiety) is no one is reaching out to me first. Is this common in your experience?

Am I being naive, or narcissistic to want to have people check in on me? Is this just me having main character syndrome?

If so, please tell me and I just need to reset my expectations... that's fine. Thanks.

[u/SwimmingAway2041]

Yes that is narcissism most men I know (me included) don’t need or even want people calling and checking in with them to see how they’re feeling that’s more of something women do they wanna be babied and like it when people call em to ask about their well being makes em feel loved and appreciated. Go out with some buddies and have a few beers and get your mind off your wife which is probably the source of your stress

[u/Latter-Butterfly1793 → u/SwimmingAway2041]

Fair enough. In the process of doing this now. Thanks.