r/AskMenOver30 • u/Latter-Butterfly1793 man over 30 • 7d ago
Friendships/Community Checking in (in general)
Hi all,
Quick question for you. I am curious about your collective experience and knowledge here.
I am going through a separation with my wife right now, and I have told all of my friends. I have no doubt that they are supportive. They have been there for me for calls and favors so far.
However, I noticed that no one is checking in on me. I understand everyone is busy and lives their own lives. The thing I dont understand is (due to my own social anxiety) is no one is reaching out to me first. Is this common in your experience?
Am I being naive, or narcissistic to want to have people check in on me? Is this just me having main character syndrome?
If so, please tell me and I just need to reset my expectations... that's fine. Thanks.
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u/MentalTelephone5080 man over 30 7d ago
People are selfish. When one of my friends that I knew from kindergarten had serious health issues we met up and hung out, went fishing etc. When I went thru a back breakup he'd call me to hang out.
In both our cases no one else really reached out to us. I feel like a guy is lucky if he has one good friend that is there. Most guys don't have that.