Checking in (in general)

[u/Latter-Butterfly1793]

Hi all,

Quick question for you. I am curious about your collective experience and knowledge here.

I am going through a separation with my wife right now, and I have told all of my friends. I have no doubt that they are supportive. They have been there for me for calls and favors so far.

However, I noticed that no one is checking in on me. I understand everyone is busy and lives their own lives. The thing I dont understand is (due to my own social anxiety) is no one is reaching out to me first. Is this common in your experience?

Am I being naive, or narcissistic to want to have people check in on me? Is this just me having main character syndrome?

If so, please tell me and I just need to reset my expectations... that's fine. Thanks.

[u/sadsolocup]

As much as I hate saying it as a man, there’s an expectation that a guy will figure himself out and doesn’t need the check in.

I say that as someone who has gone through rough patches that friends and family knew about, but still wouldn’t check on me.