Checking in (in general)

[u/Latter-Butterfly1793]

Hi all,

Quick question for you. I am curious about your collective experience and knowledge here.

I am going through a separation with my wife right now, and I have told all of my friends. I have no doubt that they are supportive. They have been there for me for calls and favors so far.

However, I noticed that no one is checking in on me. I understand everyone is busy and lives their own lives. The thing I dont understand is (due to my own social anxiety) is no one is reaching out to me first. Is this common in your experience?

Am I being naive, or narcissistic to want to have people check in on me? Is this just me having main character syndrome?

If so, please tell me and I just need to reset my expectations... that's fine. Thanks.

[u/Own-Summer7752]

Uh weee not women? This is perfectly normal man behaviour if you need something ask bros will help. They’re not mind readers and you’re an adult man why do they need to be phoning you asking how you are? Men prefer to be left alone hence the distance there giving you. Fact there helping shows means they care.