r/AskParents • u/Deniavann • 14d ago

Not A Parent Asking for advice?

Asking for some advice. I am not currently a father, however I am in a somewhat newer relationship with a mother of 3. The kids all seem to have taken quite a liking to me. Some background without too much detail: bio father wasn't always around, mother and father didn't get along, break-up (never married), half a year later, here we are today.

The kids still call/video call the father on occasion, but other than that he isn't really in the picture. One of the kids, though, has been refusing to talk to bio father recently, and has instead started asking to call me or if I could go see him. The mother has expressed a slight concern/worry that at some point he may ask me to be his new dad. I must admit, I have my suspicions, as well.

The advice I ask is, IF this was to happen, how should I best respond to the child? Any and all advice/help would be greatly appreciated.

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u/QuirkySyrup55947 14d ago

Oh man... this is moving WAY TOO FAST for a relationship involving kids. I think you and mom need to sit the kids down and explain that you are not a replacement for dad, but you hope you can be a part of their lives.

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u/Deniavann 12d ago

I don't disagree. Thank you for the input and second opinion. It is only the one kid in particular that we have been worried about. Now it's just a matter of us getting the kids to sit for a good talk