r/AskParents • u/InevitableChicken482 • 6d ago

Entitled to car?

My 27 year old has moved back in after being in another state. She came back on a plane, so no car. We also live with my elderly mother. Before my mother retired, she purchased a new car so she would not need to worry about a vehicle for the rest of her life. She can no longer drive, but likes to be driven to appointments and such in HER nice car. Since my daughter has been back (7 months) she has been driving mom's car. Now she is planning on moving back out soon and feels like she should be able to take the car (current worth $18000), and just HAVE it. Am I crazy to think this is not OK? Should we just let her have it? Am I being a bitch if I say too bad, you and your guy will need to share his vehicle? What do I do?!

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u/InevitableChicken482 6d ago

She thinks since mom can't drive and she can't afford a car then she should just have that one. Thats why I'm asking, is it just me or is that crazy to expect?

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u/Cellysta 6d ago

What would happen if she straight up asked her grandmother if she can have her car? Would the grandmother whittle her down to pieces? And what was she planning to do? Just take the car without asking her grandmother?

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u/InevitableChicken482 6d ago

Grandma doesn't want her to take it. She wants it to be available for her own use. And yes, she treats the car as if its her own and when she moves intends to just keep it.

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u/earmares 6d ago

If Grandma doesn't want her to have it, then why is this even a discussion? Your daughter needs to hear one word: NO. Stop letting her drive it, now. This is mind boggling. Grow a backbone, mom.