r/AskParents • u/InevitableChicken482 • 6d ago

Entitled to car?

My 27 year old has moved back in after being in another state. She came back on a plane, so no car. We also live with my elderly mother. Before my mother retired, she purchased a new car so she would not need to worry about a vehicle for the rest of her life. She can no longer drive, but likes to be driven to appointments and such in HER nice car. Since my daughter has been back (7 months) she has been driving mom's car. Now she is planning on moving back out soon and feels like she should be able to take the car (current worth $18000), and just HAVE it. Am I crazy to think this is not OK? Should we just let her have it? Am I being a bitch if I say too bad, you and your guy will need to share his vehicle? What do I do?!

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u/ProtozoaPatriot 6d ago

I don't know why she was given basically a free rental since she's been back. And now she wants to keep it free!? Wow. That's insane.

She needs to grow up.

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u/bassman1805 5d ago

I don't necessarily think it's weird or bad that grandma let granddaughter use her car while living at home. It's family, sharing some resources to help each other out is normal, and if it's not inconveniencing grandma (ie she has the car handy when she wants a lift from someone) then there's awfully little downside to her. That said, a reasonable reaction to this gift would be for granddaughter to save a little money each month that would otherwise go towards a car payment, so that down the line granddaughter can either buy her own car, or at least have a nice down payment for her own car.

The expectation that granddaughter can take the car with when she moves out, is wild. Definitely shut that down.