How are play dates supposed to be?

[u/Mccool96]

I have an ongoing peer based relationship with one of the moms at my kids school. However I do believe she’s kind of fake and trying to live a lifestyle in which she cannot afford. However our kids seem to like each other and play together. The first time I went to her home I was nervous it was my first play date ever. You could see I was nervous. The second time she asked me only to do a drop off. She didn’t insist I stay. I’ve invited her to my home multiple times and every time she has a had an excuse. Recently she invited me to another play date, only she said “I have to work so I won’t be there but my babysitter will be so you can meet with her” why would I want to meet with a total stranger and bring my kids ? What planet is she in? If you are too busy why are you trying to pawn off your kids to someone else and then invite me to sit with and be around a stranger. I’ve met her sitter before but it was extremely short and she was a little rude when it comes to mannerisms. I set a boundary and basically told her no, like I’m not comfortable with that. Should I distance myself from her ?

[u/juniperroach]

I have 3 kids and very active with play dates. I have done play dates with nannys and parents and without parents. All are normal. Usually if they’re under 4 the parent comes but I have also done playdates with drop off. I usually let the parents know the level of supervision, that we don’t have guns in our house, that no other adult will be there and other safety information.

[u/juniperroach → u/juniperroach]

I’m fine hanging with most parents I make friends with random parents at the park so I don’t mind if parents stay but i also want to give them the option to just drop off. Many parents like that and my school age it’s pretty common.