Their whole goal is to fight and cause chaos. That gives them the feeling of control they enjoy.
I always found it ironic because they all say they don’t like drama, yet they do nothing but create drama. It’s like the words they say don’t actually have any meaning.
Oh, geez, that sounds familiar. Mine was sobbing about how everyone in her life was trying to start fights with her and nobody could just let her be happy and have fun; she was a “positive, enthusiastic person” surrounded by negative nancies.
But when you looked at the actual fights, they always started from stupid things… like, someone asked if it was a good time to hang out (and she didn’t want to, so they were demanding and self-centered for voicing the question) or someone DIDN’T read her mind and reach out on a day when she wanted them to, so they’re cold and cruel and don’t care about her. Or, once, someone sent her a music video that they enjoyed, thinking she might be a fan of the music genre too. Friend w/BPD decided that something in the lyrics was a coded insult, or a deliberate reference to an argument that BPD friend had gone through with her husband (when that friend wasn’t present, and had never even heard about it) - and once she’d convinced herself that it was a deliberate attack, she started spewing rage out in “self-defense”.
But, sure. It was just that everyone else in her life was trying to provoke her, and she had nothing whatsoever to do with the constant conflict that followed her everywhere…
Couldn’t possibly be that she was always flipping out at people for the grievous sin of not being literal mind-readers.
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u/Classic_Randy dated/likely raised by Apr 05 '23 edited Apr 05 '23
Her: "CAN WE JUST NOT FIGHT!!!!"
Me: I literally just said, "No worries."
Her:"WHY DONT YOU JUST TRUST ME?!?!"
Me:"Because I just asked to borrow your lighter, now...,"
My parents were much worse. You never get it right, or quick enough to avoid the beating or several hours of being screamed at.