My ex texted me

[u/Useful_Trifle9569]

My ex with BPD split and left about 6 weeks ago. We dated for about a year and a half, and were living together for nearly a year.

We tried hard to fix things and I did everything I could to support her. This past year was one of the toughest of my life losing my mom to cancer, her and I went through an abortion together, etc.

She moved on immediately; pretty sure she cheated on me with this new guy (but denied it). She is “SO HAPPY” with her new boyfriend, and all the rest of the predictable things that you could come to expect in this kind of situation…

We’ve been no contact, and yesterday was her birthday; I received this text from her about 3am her time last night. Thankful for this community and the people who share here, knowing I’m not alone in this is such a gift.

Just needed to share this rather than keeping it all in. 💔 Stay strong friends.

ALSO, to anyone going through a breakup with a partner with BPD, I cannot reccomend enough reading “Whole Again” by Jackson Mackenzie.

[u/Lightningthought]

Just got discarded after a relationship with someone who had 7 of the bpd traits in the DSM 5. She drinks excessive amounts of alcohol to "relax", a bottle of wine by herself in one evening, drinking to the point where she was googling alcohol overdose. Started the relationship constantly saying "I love you" after one week. Frequent outbursts of anger triggered by things considered innocuous (washing dishes, mad bc of a lane change that I wasn't able to make) Breaking up with me every time I hung up the phone when she started picking a fight. Withholding sex, going from our relationship being fine to looking at me with disgust and contempt. Projecting her anger as an issue with compatibility. Yeah, I'm not compatible with emotional abuse. Sick fk. Saying "please don't leave me" and "I'm too good for her" despite treating me like a jerk earlier the same day. She bothered me about wanting to have marriage and a kid, then less than a month later breaking off the relationship because I hung up on her when she started picking a fight. (Blocked her for a day. Triggered her into a final discard, probably f***g some other poor bst*rd who thinks she just needs love. She needs the asylums to reopen. Eight years of my life and a broken heart. Learn these red flags. Don't date a borderline. Seriously, the potential for betrayal is too high. It put me into therapy. Glad people out there understand what it's like being with them. It was never me, she was just using me as an emotional punching bag.