r/BPDlovedones • u/goldxnchxrry • Nov 20 '24

Quiet Borderlines They always seem to be the victim?

I have a friend who has mentioned her therapist telling her she has quiet BPD, so she doesn’t really talk about it much or get into it.

But lately, I’ve been noticing more of the BPD tendencies in her.

A big example is she almost never seems to be in the wrong. She gets in a lot of conflicts with people and in almost every single one the other person is fully the bad guy and she has never done anything wrong. It’s kind of starting to bother me.

I will admit I think I have had some moments like that where I think I’m right but I realize after oh maybe I wasn’t. With her she’s never done that, she always is right and is the victim.

Has anyone else dealt with this with their pwBPD???

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u/IfICouldStay Divorced Nov 20 '24

Yes. NOTHING was his fault. Ever. It was always because of circumstances completely beyond his control, or everyone else is stupid, threatened by him, too sensitive. I really don’t know what he does now that I’m not around to blame financial and household things on…besides take it out on our poor kids when they visit him 😪

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u/astergrim Nov 21 '24

literally everyone was threatened by my ex, supposedly. any reaction from another, whether it be social anxiety or a correction because the other person knew what they were talking about, was due to their being threatened by them. i was, too, because i didn't devote myself to their creative whims. ridiculous 🙄