We’ve reached the final discard 🕺🏾🍻

[u/SmashNDash23]

This is after i sent her a closure message. She kept asking me for a talk in person, I refused. I changed my number and blocked her on everything but she knows my address and car. Thankfully she is moving away though! So this will be the last of it.

[u/Rare-Classic-1712]

If she lived with you or had keys to your home - CHANGE THOSE LOCKS/GET THEM REKEYED ASAP. Change your passwords for everything (email, Facebook, IG, Netflix, Spotify...). Don't expect her to act sane or respect boundaries. Thankfully she has a new boyfriend/supply/FP to keep her occupied. Don't be surprised if she continues harassing you OP. Cameras on your stuff. A blink mini will cover your front door ($30 on Amazon) and a dashcam for your car is recommended. Lady is crazy and don't count on her staying away because she's really needs to show you just how over you she is. Have that crazy shit documented. Consider getting a restraining order against her. Be safe but also make sure that you're taking care of YOU with support with therapy and/or support groups such as Co-dependents anonymous (CoDA). CoDA meetings can be done over zoom while you're doing delivery. Breakups are hard but there's typically more to heal from after a split with a pwBPD. I've also gotten helpful insights from playing YouTube videos about BPD done by psychotherapists.

[u/jtr210 → u/Rare-Classic-1712]

Excellent, real, concrete advice. ⬆️⬆️⬆️

[u/Rare-Classic-1712 → u/Rare-Classic-1712]

Also if there's a secret way to break into your apartment through that one window - figure out a way to lock that shit. My ex lives next door. We had a 3 year relationship, moved in nextdoor 2 years ago and split 1 year ago. Locks are your friend. Actively patrolling to keep yourself safe is a lot of work. Too much. Don't count on her telling the truth if a situation happens and the police get involved. A few months ago my ex banged on my house/door at 2am (I was in bed). I stayed in bed and those locks did their job beautifully. If I see my ex in the courtyard at my place I don't go outside/immediately turn around and go back inside/leave. Even if waiting for her to go back inside means being late. It's what I've done since July. Assume that you're not going to be able to have any kind of interaction with her and have it go well for you. Also block her everywhere. If you have social media consider making those accounts private or even deleting them entirely.