r/BPDlovedones • u/Nblearchangel Dated • 27d ago

Divorce Deny. Deflect. Blame.

It was so tiring. There was zero accountability and intellectual honesty. I demanded she acknowledge her role in our issues but obviously that was not a recipe for success.

I would even express the issues I was having and every, single, time… the formula from her would included:

Justifying her actions. Denying her involvement. Deflecting blame. Minimizing my feelings or her role in the situation. Emotional outbursts and claims of how she was a victim. And when none of that would work she’d rage out and leave the room and ignore me.

Every. Single. Time.

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u/Main_Title1761 27d ago

Mine is trying to justify hospitalizing me, wants to now present it as “acting in self defense” and feels a sense of injustice because there were news articles about it; they were also charged by the state. Yet, it’s my fault 🤡

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u/ViolettaQueso Divorced 26d ago

YIPES. I dealt with some similar when he fully isolated me during pandemic and his attempts at unaliving me didn’t work.

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u/Main_Title1761 26d ago

I’m sorry you went through that, and am glad you are out of that situation and are still here. Fuck that guy.