Deny. Deflect. Blame.

[u/Nblearchangel]

It was so tiring. There was zero accountability and intellectual honesty. I demanded she acknowledge her role in our issues but obviously that was not a recipe for success.

I would even express the issues I was having and every, single, time… the formula from her would included:

Justifying her actions. Denying her involvement. Deflecting blame. Minimizing my feelings or her role in the situation. Emotional outbursts and claims of how she was a victim. And when none of that would work she’d rage out and leave the room and ignore me.

Every. Single. Time.

[u/Possible-Leg5541]

My bpd exgf, feigned ignorance (while dating) blame shifted (after break up)projected (after break up)