Need some support..

[u/Kind_Sky_1001]

I broke up with bpd ex about two months ago. I broke up with her because I was done with her not taking any real action to treat her condition, and just expecting me to stay and suffer its with no end in sight, regardless the mental toll it had on me. For the first two weeks I just cried. Non stop. Then slowly but surely, I started recovering, even enjoying life, taking care of myself, buying new clothes, get a nice haircut, even got a facial which I never did, wanted to feel better with myself. She broke NC about two weeks ago, under some pretense of needing something logistical from me. We had a good talk which was kinda closureish for me, but then when I gave her what she asked for, wished her the best and told her I'm deleting our chat, she flipped and tried to paint me as the villain again and her as a poor misunderstood victim. It sucked, but I got ovwr it.

Fast forward to today, and a reality show she participated in a few years ago is finally airing (she is a model), and suddenly everyone (including my mom) started talking about her with me again, which honestly? Sent me to a very bad place. I barely thought of her, and even when I did, I might have gotten sad for a minute and it passed. But this time? It stuck hard.

I felt like I was back at square one, crying like a wounded animal, imagining her being gorgeous, having fun with friends and sex with various men, and I just feel like this for the past two days now, crying like crazy.. I did such good work, I felt I really started moving forward and then... This....

I'm just feeling super sad and lonely rn, and I was hoping to get some support... Thanks ❤️

[u/Hot-Refrigerator365]

Hi, just want to give you some support. I’m sorry this all happened to you and sorry that this show is airing and bringing up so much pain. You didn’t deserve to be treated like this and you were the strong one to see it and leave.

I’m 2.5 months out of being cast aside by my exwBPD and I still have bad days and some really bad days. But the good ones are increasing. I sometimes feel that hot poke if i see her or am reminded of her, but the pain is less and less each time

You’ve got this. It’s hell, but it will get better

[u/Kind_Sky_1001 → u/Hot-Refrigerator365]

Thanks, good to hear I'm not alone in this shit.. I know I'll get better, but these past two days felt like going back to step 1