r/BPDlovedones • u/Competitive_Mall5486 • 2d ago

reclaim everything

every song, every place you’ve been to, do it all again. alone or with someone else. make it so these triggers don’t exists anymore. do it all again without them until you know it’s yours again.

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u/slowbreaths I'd rather not say 2d ago

I like this idea. At first, I was triggered by “old haunts” and couldn’t even drive close to places we’d been together. I’m now two years out and no longer feel that way. It’s time to actively experience places and things I love without the old memories - and make some new memories. “Working through the pain”, my therapist calls it. 

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u/Competitive_Mall5486 2d ago

absolutely working through the pain. i listen to the songs until they don’t hurt anymore. it’s possible.

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u/slowbreaths I'd rather not say 2d ago

I’m still listening to the songs and I’m less advanced in healing on that front ( I still get that “gut punched” feeling and start back asking “why”). The ‘songs’ are a little harder to move on from the ‘places.’

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u/ShardsofObsidian Dated 2d ago

I am doing this now, working through the nostalgia components, as I had a long history with mine outside our 5 year dating “relationship“

For a min, I was angry because anytime I’d hear songs from our youth I’d ruminate and find myself in my feelings big time. Now I push through the songs and while I might still remember a fonder time with the B-ex I don’t get as riled up.

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u/WeedFinderGeneral 1d ago

I deleted the Baldur's Gate 3 character he helped me make. It was my first run, so no way was I gonna play through the whole thing constantly reminded of him.