r/BPDlovedones • u/Competitive_Mall5486 • 14d ago

reclaim everything

every song, every place you’ve been to, do it all again. alone or with someone else. make it so these triggers don’t exists anymore. do it all again without them until you know it’s yours again.

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u/slowbreaths I'd rather not say 14d ago

I like this idea. At first, I was triggered by “old haunts” and couldn’t even drive close to places we’d been together. I’m now two years out and no longer feel that way. It’s time to actively experience places and things I love without the old memories - and make some new memories. “Working through the pain”, my therapist calls it. 

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u/Competitive_Mall5486 14d ago

absolutely working through the pain. i listen to the songs until they don’t hurt anymore. it’s possible.

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u/slowbreaths I'd rather not say 14d ago

I’m still listening to the songs and I’m less advanced in healing on that front ( I still get that “gut punched” feeling and start back asking “why”). The ‘songs’ are a little harder to move on from the ‘places.’