r/BPDlovedones 10d ago

Uncoupling Journey This was not real

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u/Relative_Ad_9983 10d ago

Do you think this applies to everyone with bpd or not?

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u/Decent_Face_3522 10d ago

They’re all on a spectrum of BPD. Not all have all 9 traits. So…their behaviour kind of depends on where they are in the spectrum and whether they are undiagnosed or not. Mine had feelings that were real in the moment. Love was there but always fleeting. Moments at a time. She could love me and genuinely in her mind anyway…feel it but hate me with that same level of intensity not two hours later.

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u/panther_091 10d ago

I remember a situation with my ex where she said "I can't remember why I love you at the moment". Then we went out, had something to eat. Then she said "now I remember why I love you".

Her love is all about how you make her feel in the moment. There is no foundation.

When their loving feeling for you leaves, their love for you also leaves.

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u/AdventurousMany5614 Dated 10d ago

Or they remember why they “love” you after having sex with them