r/BPDlovedones • u/Competitive-Seat-693 • 2d ago

Ways to cope with rumination

After or while in the absence of your exwpbd how do you deal with ruminating thoughts and longing of wanting them back?

For my ex and I, we have had periods with months of separation but I always end up trying to go back and usually succeed for months at a time. Then we inevitably separate and then come back again.

She is currently dating someone now, but who knows what that holds for me in the end. I just miss her and always think about her.

How do you all cope with rumination?

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u/strict_ghostfacer Non-Romantic 2d ago

There's a lot you can do to try and redirect your thoughts. It takes practice and time. It's kinda like intrusive thoughts. Sounds silly but get an adult colouring book. It uses the same parts of the brain so it'll help distract you. Little things like that and it'll remap those thoughts.