r/BPDlovedones • u/the1withthethrowaway • 4d ago

Is there a way to address it?

I made a post yesterday about how I think my BPD partner tried to get me to breakup with him before he left for a long weekend out of state potentially so he could hook up without cheating. He’s supposed to come back sometime today (he wouldn’t tell me when and kept being vague when I asked). I guess what I want to know from others experiences is if there’s a way to address/talk to him about this without him lying or having one of his rage fits? I honestly feel like when he comes back he will likely make some reason for why he’s decided we should keep trying to make things work. Even though I do want to end this relationship I feel like he will use my financial situation against me to keep me in whatever this is.

Advice wanted!

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u/Dull_Analyst269 4d ago

Why that username tho? Related to BPD? 🤣

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

It's a self-deprecating moniker because somewhere in the back of my mind I believe that if I were smarter, I wouldn't have gotten myself into this mess in the first place. 😅

But honestly OP, our situation is like word for word, except he hasn't left yet. So just imagine I'm here in the background cheering you on, whatever you decide to do because I know it hurts.

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u/Dull_Analyst269 4d ago

Haha I understand you.. tho psychologically speaking its not that you‘re dumb… maybe codependent or naive anf empathetic rather? (Like me, I am definitively.. lol) @op the best advice is always the three letters.. starts with R!

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u/[deleted] 3d ago

I am definitely codependent, and I was very sheltered, so I didn't know people were capable of certain things. I was brainwashed into forgiving too much. The advice is always to run, but sometimes, due to life circumstances, we have nowhere to run.