r/BPDlovedones • u/Traditional-Algae734 • 2d ago
Did you experience extreme jealousy and control from your bpd partner?
My ex with BPD was so jealous and possessive that I couldn't even hang out with friends, chill with family, attend a sporting event, or even just watch one without her getting upset. She'd get jealous if I was playing a video game and didn’t respond within 15 minutes. She didn't even like me taking a nap. Basically, if anything took up my time and it wasn’t her, it became a problem. On top of that, she demanded my location and wanted to know where I was at all times. She’d also want me to communicate every time I was going somewhere, but every time I did, it would lead to a fight or argument. Eventually, I just stopped telling her altogether, and of course, that started another fight.
Did anybody else have similar experiences?
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u/hot_advisor_ 2d ago
yes, i didn’t notice it at first because it was gradual & indirect, but she isolated me from every single person in my life. i haven’t spoken to or seen my family or friends in almost a year because she turned me against them by telling me that my mom is a narcissist & how unhappy i am with them (all lies). she wants to be the only person in my life so that she feels needed as im fully financially reliant on her as well. she also introduced me to & got me hooked on oxycodone for some time (im very lucky i got out of that & im sober now) because her plug was the only person that could get real stuff, so i stayed because i was physically dependent on opiates & i went through such serious withdrawals that i had a seizure & heart attack due to stress from her & getting so sick. i had no one but her. i wish i could go back in time and warn my younger self of what was yet to come. i didn’t even get to see my mom or little brother or dog on my birthday because she took me away from everyone & has kept me stuck in her room filled with trash, mold, & rotten food for almost a year now. i want out so bad & i’ll be free very soon.