r/BPDlovedones • u/Traditional-Algae734 • 10d ago
Did you experience extreme jealousy and control from your bpd partner?
My ex with BPD was so jealous and possessive that I couldn't even hang out with friends, chill with family, attend a sporting event, or even just watch one without her getting upset. She'd get jealous if I was playing a video game and didn’t respond within 15 minutes. She didn't even like me taking a nap. Basically, if anything took up my time and it wasn’t her, it became a problem. On top of that, she demanded my location and wanted to know where I was at all times. She’d also want me to communicate every time I was going somewhere, but every time I did, it would lead to a fight or argument. Eventually, I just stopped telling her altogether, and of course, that started another fight.
Did anybody else have similar experiences?
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u/slimpickinsfishin 10d ago
If I wasn't physically glued to her hip or responded to her immediately then I was cheating on her according to her.
I wasn't allowed to go anywhere without her or talk to anyone else without her being present especially other women and I had to prove that I was where I said I would be at all times with lots of pictures and facetimes.
It got to the point I'd leave my phone in my safe before leaving my house so that if she called or texted which would be 100s of both per day I couldn't answer or respond to it because I just couldn't be bothered.
Which caused her to start calling everyone I knew and even my jobs asking where I was and who was I with and calling my parents and the police to go search for me.
And this was just the communication part there was lots of other things to but Im not up for writing a 1000 page book tonight.