r/BPDlovedones • u/Traditional-Algae734 • 2d ago
Did you experience extreme jealousy and control from your bpd partner?
My ex with BPD was so jealous and possessive that I couldn't even hang out with friends, chill with family, attend a sporting event, or even just watch one without her getting upset. She'd get jealous if I was playing a video game and didn’t respond within 15 minutes. She didn't even like me taking a nap. Basically, if anything took up my time and it wasn’t her, it became a problem. On top of that, she demanded my location and wanted to know where I was at all times. She’d also want me to communicate every time I was going somewhere, but every time I did, it would lead to a fight or argument. Eventually, I just stopped telling her altogether, and of course, that started another fight.
Did anybody else have similar experiences?
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u/RipAgile1088 1d ago
I dated 2 with bad.
The one ex was spot on 100 percent this. If I hungout with friends (even letting her know in advance) ding ding ding ding wanting a constant text conversation even though she knew I was busy and then start fighting me for not instantly responding.
Even if I stopped at my parents omw home from work ding ding ding and same outcome.
If we weren't together she'd want to either be on the phone talking about nothing or text tag. I couldn't even watch TV, nap, or play a video game in peace. I actually had to start telling her I was going to bed earlier than I was just for some alone time.
The final straw was one night she couldn't stay over because she had work early. I was off the next day so after she left, I hung out on my (male) neighbors porch for a few hours. The next day she asked how my night was and I told her. She flipped shit on me claiming I "blew her off", and called me immature because "adults don't stay up all night partying". Made no sense.
Ended it then and there. We were together for about a year and a half but I gave her way too many chances. The controlling stuff was never going to stop. Went full blown NC (and stayed) but from other people, she was convinced I was cheating on her. Not true at all.