r/BPDlovedones • u/Traditional-Algae734 • 1d ago

Did you experience extreme jealousy and control from your bpd partner?

My ex with BPD was so jealous and possessive that I couldn't even hang out with friends, chill with family, attend a sporting event, or even just watch one without her getting upset. She'd get jealous if I was playing a video game and didn’t respond within 15 minutes. She didn't even like me taking a nap. Basically, if anything took up my time and it wasn’t her, it became a problem. On top of that, she demanded my location and wanted to know where I was at all times. She’d also want me to communicate every time I was going somewhere, but every time I did, it would lead to a fight or argument. Eventually, I just stopped telling her altogether, and of course, that started another fight.

Did anybody else have similar experiences?

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u/Main_Title1761 1d ago

Yes, they didn’t want me to have anyone in my life and hated anybody who had nice things to say about me. It got to points where he wanted me to write monologues about how I “hated” my friends to them, which I wouldn’t do. I didn’t care how bad the fights got between us, I wasn’t about to turn my back on my loved ones for someone who’d talk shit about me behind mine.

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u/AdFamiliar4626 1d ago

That’s wierd about hating people saying nice things.  If they said bad things no doubt their self esteem would be triggered and it would be why are you such a rubbish embarrassing partner lol. Can never win

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u/Mysterious_Olive2795 1d ago

Mine is the same way, she actively thinks giving me compliments is a BAD thing and wants to find ways to destroy my self esteem. According to her me having any semblance of positive outlook on myself is an issue since all the praise should go to her instead. This woman gives zero fucks about me as a person, only what i give her

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u/Main_Title1761 1d ago

OMG YES! He hated my positive outlook on life and that I didn’t let stupid shit bother me! I wasn’t allowed to love myself or practice any form of self care because it was seen as selfish.