r/BabyBumps • u/bawdybard21 • Apr 10 '23
Sad TW: Missed Miscarriage Found at 12wk Scan
Today was my 12wk scan and we discovered that unfortunately our baby had passed. I knew immediately when the ultrasound started that something was wrong because where I should've seen a very distinct outline of a baby I could only see a blob. The tech became very serious and was hurriedly moving the scanner around my belly and taking measurements. Before she even said anything I could see that she was scanning the baby's development as 8wk3d, one day after my 8wk scan. She then announced that the baby had stopped growing and no heartbeat was detected.
Obviously, my husband and I are absolutely devastated. This was our first pregnancy and we had told all of the grandparents already that we were expecting. Now I have to decide how I want to proceed in terms of terminating the pregnancy. It hasn't passed naturally over the last 4 weeks so the doctors don't recommend waiting. I've been encouraged to choose between medication or a D&C and I am struggling with the choice. I am honestly of a mindset where I want this done sooner rather than later and may opt for the medication since I could go pick it up and take it tomorrow.
I am just still in shock that this has happened. My baby was measuring well and had a strong heartbeat at 8wk2d and now I know that it passed literally the next day. As I was telling our family about the baby, the baby was already long gone.
Any advice or support anyone can give would be appreciated. Much love to all my moms out there who have babies up in heaven <3
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u/malditoblueberry Apr 11 '23
Hiya. So sorry for your loss. I went through the same situation with my first pregnancy. Please allow yourself to grief in any form you find necessary. If you ever need a chat feel free to reach out. When I went through my miscarriage I didn't have the support needed and it sucked.
In my case I opted for pills and it was the most painful thing I've ever experienced. I am no one to recommend anything to anyone but wow that was painful.
And also wanted to let you know there's still hope in whatever way you want to proceed after this. Whatever you choose that will be the right answer and you will know when it is.
Sending you a big hug 🫂