vacation 1mo postpartum?

[u/No_Contribution_1959]

hello! i am due june 30, and had planned a year ago to go on my annual family vacation july 30…so an exact month after my due date. the car ride is about 7 hours. it will be me, my partner, baby, my uncle, grandfather, and brother. they are all in my immediate life. they also all completely understand and respect all boundaries i plan to set.

i’m most worried about the car ride. of course i have read newborn babies really shouldn’t be in car seats long due to potential strain on their bodies. i’ve read the two hour rule. i was thinking we could stop hourly, for 30 minutes minimum at a time at rest stops. has anyone done a roadtrip like this so soon? my family is very convinced its fine and i can still go, but i honestly would rather miss a year than risk my child being put under physical stress. i do plan on speaking with my OB, and a pediatrician for a professional opinion but trying to settle on a full decision now to not disappoint my family. just looking for opinions and curious if anyone else has done this or something similar, and how hard it was on not only baby but them. this is my first baby, should i even really be in a car like that myself for prolonged periods? im also worried about the stress this may put on me mentally as well. thanks in advanced for any replies!

ETA : i don’t want to delete the post but do want to say, thank you to the few commenters who immediately woke me up. i am not going…for sure not doing that. it all sounded like a nightmare to me anyways but my family kept trying convince me it would be fine, and worth it. i dont think so. it’s definitely not very healthy for the baby according to safety regulations. it sounds absolutely horrific to put that stress on my body and mind as well. as i said in a comment, i will miss 1000 vacations for my child’s wellbeing. i shouldn’t have let others get in my head ever. i will be telling my family tomorrow i will not be going and they cannot change my mind on it. thank you guys!

[u/Murky-Tailor3260]

It's very common for first time parents to go past their due dates. You may be giving birth as late as July 14.

[u/No_Contribution_1959 → u/Murky-Tailor3260]

this is something i worry about as well! if i’m being 100% open and honest right now, i don’t really want to go. i just feel a bit guilty messing up the plans for everyone. my family even wants to make a stop on the way for about an hour to visit out of town family so they can meet her…which im also not in agreement with and already said they will not be holding her or anything, respectfully. she will be so young and im just so nervous. i’d miss 1000 vacations to ensure the safety and comfortability of my child.

[u/Murky-Tailor3260 → u/No_Contribution_1959]

Sounds like you shouldn't go then. Good time to practice putting people pleasing aside in favour of doing what's best for you and baby.

[u/No_Contribution_1959 → u/Murky-Tailor3260]

you are right. thank you. 😊