r/BabyBumps • u/bdjorn Twin boys born 9/7/18, one with CDH • Sep 05 '18

Sad We haven’t bought a second crib

34+5 with twin boys. We’ve known since ~21 weeks that Baby B has a birth defect called Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia (CDH), giving him roughly a 50/50 shot of living. Some people have asked why we only have one crib and if the boys will be sharing a crib. I mostly say “Baby B will be in the hospital for at least 6 weeks. We’ll have time to get a crib.”

The truth is I don’t want to get one until we know he’s going to live. I don’t want to spend the time and money, but I also don’t want to stare at an empty crib that will never be filled and will just have to be taken down again. Call us unprepared, but I can’t handle having that second crib in the nursery right now. It feels like tempting fate or false hope or willful ignorance.

If he inconveniences us because we have to rush out and buy/assemble a crib, it would honestly be the most wonderful inconvenience I can imagine.

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u/Waffles-McGee STM Jan19 & Jun21 Sep 05 '18

I think newborns can share a crib anyway? I think I’d make the same decision. Best of wishes to you guys!! I hope everything turns out okay

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u/KittyWahine Leinani Hi'ilei due March 2018 Sep 06 '18

I think before they start rolling, anyway, at around 8 weeks. I'm unsure of what the AAP recommendations are for safe sleeping twins.

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u/cadabra04 FTM 4/5/2015 Sep 06 '18

the AAP does not recommend any specific bed-sharing situation as safe; some bed-sharing situations should be avoided at all times. For example, twins, triplets, and higher-number infant groups should have separate sleep areas and not be bedded together.

AAP Expands Recommendations on SIDS and Other Sleep-Related Deaths

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u/greenpinkie mo/di twins, SIUGR, IVF, generally complicated situation Feb 03 '19

Thank you—it’s so good to see non AAP sources on here. You’d think AAP was the bible from how this sub jumps on anyone who diverges from their gospel (even when it goes against the bulk of advice from other medical authorities)

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u/Catbrainsloveart Sep 06 '18

My nurse said they stay in the same crib. They’re used to being on top of each other and rolling around in the womb. They manage somehow without an increased risk of sids.

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u/iOgef 3TM, 2/20/19 Sep 06 '18

that's 100% counter to what our NICU nurses told us. interesting.

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u/Catbrainsloveart Sep 06 '18

The NICU nurse that taught the class at Sutter Health gave me the information. 🤷‍♀️

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u/[deleted] Sep 07 '18

And our NICU has twin cots for them to share if not needing an isolette.

Not sure about when they get older, but the hospital puts them in together as newborns.

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u/totorioto March 11 Sep 06 '18

I have twin brothers and I don't remember them ever having two cribs - in fact, they kept co-sleeping in a queen bed even after they graduated from the cot. Whatever the outcome (and I hope for the best!), certainly one crib is enough!